Happiness comes in different flavors and is always readily available for us. But here is the deal – we need to be our real authentic selves to be able to experience it. To put it simply, we will never have our full happiness, unless we know who we are, what we want and live in harmony with that.
Even though it seems to be the most natural thing, being authentic is not as easy as it sounds. We are very conditioned to fit various boxes our society has prepared for us, which often don’t leave enough space to discover our true selves and whether we want to fit these boxes at all. Throwing an honest look at ourselves and our choices takes a lot of courage in this case, but also brings amazing rewards.
Here are the 3 inspiring TED talks, that discuss the issue of being authentic from different angles.
Who defines you?
Lizzie Velasquez has a very rare syndrome, which makes her unable to gain weight. She did not fit the box of the society by default and had no opportunity to change that. The only choice she had was to either close down from life and society, or to stand tall in being who she is, despite the tremendous pressure. She refused to be defined by others and instead chose to teach others who she really is.
Who do you think you are?
Caroline McHugh helps people to be themselves for a living. In her deeply brilliant talk she reminds us when we were truly great at being authentic – when we were children. She urges to look at our true selves and to reveal the remarkable individuality each of us has, because each of us has a unique role in this world, which nobody else can play. She shows how we can take up all the space that life has intended for us and live in a new way.
What is it like to be authentic?
One of the biggest reasons why being ourselves can be hard is because it requires us to be vulnerable. Brené Brown is a research professor, who studies human ability to empathize, belong and love. In her amazing and already famous talk she explains that we need to embrace and accept our imperfections, weaknesses and vulnerability, to be able to live authentic lives and to build meaningful connections with others.
I hope you enjoyed these talks and found them useful. They have certainly made me think about a lot of things. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments and if you liked this post, you can also check out these two: