Have you ever met people who tend to get better things in life? It can even seem unfair sometimes. They just ask for it – and people give it to them. They say no to someone – and nobody is blaming them.
One common thing people like that have is a belief that they are worthy.
Our self esteem and feeling of self-worth are fundamental for all areas of life. How we think of ourselves will be reflected by the world around us. So low self esteem can make our life experience quite negative.
The great thing is that self esteem is a mental concept – it is made of our thoughts. That means we are always able to change it, no matter how old we are and what life experiences we went through.
And when you do change your thoughts about yourself to more positive ones, you start noticing some interesting things happening in your life.
You get a happy love life
You get out of circle of abusive or simply draining relationships. Because you respect yourself and have solid boundaries, you start attracting and building relationships with completely different type of men, who respect you. You stop being scared that your man will cheat on you, or betray you, or leave you. You stop being afraid to be alone, without a partner, because you have so many other meaningful things to do, that love is no longer the only thing to live for.
You find more meaning in life
You stop fighting for recognition and trying to prove yourself in the office. Instead, you put your energy to finding out what is it that you truly want to contribute in this world. And you are not afraid or ashamed to transfer to this field of work, when you found it. Even if you were a head attorney for a huge corporation, but now want to be a yoga teacher.
You become surrounded by good friends
Healthy self esteem will never let you tolerate people who bring you down, criticize or make fun of you in a cruel way. You let these people out of your life and don’t feel guilty about it. You know you deserve positive and supportive friends. So you are not afraid to say “no” to those, who don’t match that criteria.
You look and feel beautiful
You start looking better. And feeling better. Not by magic, but because you finally realize that you deserve and must invest time and money into your beauty and health. No matter what. No matter your financial or emotional state, other obligations or inconvenience of changing your lifestyle. It becomes your priority, rather than something you remember only after you take care of everyone else.
Low self esteem can make your life tougher that it should be. So it’s important to cultivate self love and take good care of yourself. Here are 5 Essential Rules for a Healthy Self Esteem to check that you are on track.